Conquering Sexual Anxiety
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While it’s usually men that get the articles on sexual anxiety, women are just as susceptible. Maybe you’ve been with your partner for a long time and have ‘gotten used’ to them, but you wanted to try swinging as a way to spice things up.
And now, you’re thinking that you’re more ‘stale’ than spice.
Taking Stock Of Your Skills
One of the best ways to get out of thinking that you’re not any good in bed is to talk to your partner. Ask them what they love about you and your skills before and during sex.
You may be surprised to hear the answers. Much of the ‘good stuff’ that we do is natural and we wouldn’t even realize that we’re doing it.
So you can count on your instincts to get you through any rough patches.
Feeling Your Way Through
Another great way to keep you confident as you’re trying to please someone new is to ask beforehand. That way, you already have an arsenal of ways to give them pleasure.
If you haven’t done that, you can always ask while you’re in the moment. Ask them if this or that feels good. Where do they like to be touched? Is there anything that they don’t like?
By having them guide you, you can stop worrying that you’re doing everything wrong.
And people want to lead you in the right direction.
Building Up Confidence
Most of the time, our sexual skills come from trying something that you’ve never tried before. My partner once told me that he always makes things up as we’re in the act, but because he’s so confident (or at least acts like it), I thought that he was much more experienced.
It’s amazing what jumping right in will do.
Do Your Homework
Take the time to read up on sex and ways to pleasure someone. Read magazines, websites, and articles. Find books and charts to the G-spot and other wonders of the human body.
Learn as much as you can about the body and how you can please it.
Watch erotic movies and see what they do. If anything, you can always try to copy something. The more things you know, the better off you will be.
Fake It
And I don’t mean faking the orgasm; I mean fake your skills. Pretend that you know more than you do and eventually you will. Act as though you are an adult video champion and you know every trick in the book to make someone feel good.
You would be surprised how many times you are right.
Pay Attention
By just listening to their breathing quicken, you can find a discreet little spot that needs lots of ‘attention’ or realize when their breathing slows that you’ve not where you need to be.
Test out the waters a little more each time, and soon your anxiety will just be a memory.
Realize that everyone wants to feel good, so they’ll make sure that you’re doing everything you can to ensure that.
Enlarge Image
While it’s usually men that get the articles on sexual anxiety, women are just as susceptible. Maybe you’ve been with your partner for a long time and have ‘gotten used’ to them, but you wanted to try swinging as a way to spice things up.
And now, you’re thinking that you’re more ‘stale’ than spice.
Taking Stock Of Your Skills
One of the best ways to get out of thinking that you’re not any good in bed is to talk to your partner. Ask them what they love about you and your skills before and during sex.
You may be surprised to hear the answers. Much of the ‘good stuff’ that we do is natural and we wouldn’t even realize that we’re doing it.
So you can count on your instincts to get you through any rough patches.
Feeling Your Way Through
Another great way to keep you confident as you’re trying to please someone new is to ask beforehand. That way, you already have an arsenal of ways to give them pleasure.
If you haven’t done that, you can always ask while you’re in the moment. Ask them if this or that feels good. Where do they like to be touched? Is there anything that they don’t like?
By having them guide you, you can stop worrying that you’re doing everything wrong.
And people want to lead you in the right direction.
Building Up Confidence
Most of the time, our sexual skills come from trying something that you’ve never tried before. My partner once told me that he always makes things up as we’re in the act, but because he’s so confident (or at least acts like it), I thought that he was much more experienced.
It’s amazing what jumping right in will do.
Do Your Homework
Take the time to read up on sex and ways to pleasure someone. Read magazines, websites, and articles. Find books and charts to the G-spot and other wonders of the human body.
Learn as much as you can about the body and how you can please it.
Watch erotic movies and see what they do. If anything, you can always try to copy something. The more things you know, the better off you will be.
Fake It
And I don’t mean faking the orgasm; I mean fake your skills. Pretend that you know more than you do and eventually you will. Act as though you are an adult video champion and you know every trick in the book to make someone feel good.
You would be surprised how many times you are right.
Pay Attention
By just listening to their breathing quicken, you can find a discreet little spot that needs lots of ‘attention’ or realize when their breathing slows that you’ve not where you need to be.
Test out the waters a little more each time, and soon your anxiety will just be a memory.
Realize that everyone wants to feel good, so they’ll make sure that you’re doing everything you can to ensure that.
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